Tuesday, 29 August 2017

Judgement

Opinions and judgements take no time to come in existence but take a lot of energy and time to be dealt with. Every moment we are making opinions which are not even required but we still put our minds to it! We don't realize but these opinions and judgements change your perceptions and our personality to an extent that it is hard to come back to the initial stage. Before going into the solution of how not to do it, let's discuss why we do it intentionally or unintentionally! Your mind has power to create but it also has a quality to wander. For instance you're reading a book. Your mind wanders with the characters and content of the book. Then it starts going around you and starts remembering and cooking up stories. If not this you will relate to the book or start thinking of finishing it or what will you do after that. Suddenly you're passing judgements on characters of the book or people around you or imaginary situations. Is it really needed? Mind is like the naughty kid on the playground. The more you say no to something it will definitely start thinking about it constantly. The only solution is to observe or be aware. Constantly checking where the mind is wandering. You may ask why is this a topic of discussion? It is so because we are so engrossed in things and situations which can simply be avoided by being aware. For instance someone tells you about a person A. You start making up a judgement. Then when you meet that person, the prior image needs time to fade to make up a new image but it will always be affected by the pervious one!
You never know the back story of the person or how that situation has occurred so why waste time in making up rigid thoughts. Then pass on these thoughts and get into unnecessary and unwanted situations. Just be vigilant and keep coming back to the path you have chosen. It is hard for sure. But keep trying. I'm too!

Saturday, 19 August 2017

Pause

Why are we running? Yes this may strike to you as why this question? What does this mean? But it is something that I observed! When we are kids, we want to grow up fast, be an adult. Thinking we will get some freedom. In adulthood we think about promotions and a perfect partner. In middle age about children. Old age is property issues or health problems or loneliness. This habit is to such an extent that we never live the moment and think about the next. In school thinking about getting into a good college then to a good job then to promotions and this goes on. Just stop for a minute! Yes planning for the future is essential but not at the cost of your present. Live your childhood, better study and acquire knowledge in college. Jobs and properties and children will happen eventually as a by product! Failures and emotional breakdowns are also part of the process. It will all happen. But it all depends on how you look at it! Try to figure out your stabilizer! The one that calms your storms. It may be a person or book or place or spirituality or faith. Because at the end of the day even a optimistic person needs optimism! Balance is what is required in living the moment and using it being aware and productive for the future. You have the solutions to your problems alone and only you have the potential to balance. The mind is what needs to dealt with. Take a pause everyday to introspect and improve. Keep trying! I'm too!